So- it has been awhile and I do apologize- Writing becomes hard for me at times. When I want to balance the over emotional aspects that I tend to exacerbate.  I read the other blogs, and I wish that I could be so passionate about planting, farming, and anything or even have the time to do that which I like- but what I see as reality for so many people my age takes over this. The drama of everyday life is consuming and our gardens are not flourishing so well. I think that wisdom does not necessarily come with age, but peace perhaps can, as you learn more readily how to deal and quiet the internal affairs. I count the times I catch someone in that forever long blank stare into nothing-  and for me, those are the moments that make a person a person. And that is the moment I am most interested in.

I must apologize again- for having that sentiment of detriment; but it is so difficult to always be pleasant in a world where there is so much pain. I admire the strength of humanity that exists within each individual to handle this; and of course the sense of community that protects and nourishes souls be it within family or friend networks. The most difficult thing about the everyday struggle is the feeling that the only reason the war happens is because people are so reactive and in constant defense mechanism mode. What are your greatest fears?

Success beyond belief? Failure beyond Recovery? Simple Love? Judgement?

As the token Valentine’s Day Approaches or Single Awareness Day depending on your approach I invite you to realize your own worth and that of those around you. The worth that is only visible in the quiet, dark, stripped moments that only one soul occupies at a time. Take the good and the bad. Take the ugly and the sad. Take the beautiful and the talented- and the lifeless and hidden moments. Turn off the Presentation of Self in Every Day Life and look at another in the same manner. Once you Fall in love with yourself, loving others becomes honest and free. No Expectations. No Limitations. Simplistic appreciation of the holistic being- the mistakes, the perfections, and everything in between.

Regardless of your sexual orientation, a man and a woman are not so different when we set aside the socialization process. Whether it be for friendship or loveship- learn to value the worth of real people. Learn to apologize. Learn to be compassionate. Learn to be reciprocal. Learn to be supportive. Listen. Talk. Touch. and Be slow. A Woman and a Man are not so different at heart, but the manifestation of experience causes confusion. And when it is most tempting to shut down, open up….  This is something that I find within United States Culture to be so terribly difficult. As the individual continues to be the center of the universe- success equates to doing it alone… and vulnerability is never a good idea.

But A Woman and Man are one in the same. Despite the perspective. Everyone needs that which we are most unwilling to give these days. My personal biggest fear is that the hard rock will often prevail over the gem. And although for most, this avenue is not easy, it is chosen because it is far easier to control to the outsiders. It takes a brave individual to go against the grain, the system, and dare to not be ordinary.

So Remember to Be Kind to yourself of course and to those around you & find comfort in simplicity- you never know what tomorrow brings-

and maybe one day-  we shall all have that garden…

One Love

Mandy