Comments on: It Sometimes Rains In January… http://blog.wildirisbooks.com/guest-authors/urban-elegance/it-sometimes-rains-in-january/ A New Age Feminist Bookstore Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:14:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Misscampbell http://blog.wildirisbooks.com/guest-authors/urban-elegance/it-sometimes-rains-in-january/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Misscampbell Thu, 08 Jan 2009 05:20:31 +0000 http://wildirisbooks.com/blog/?p=201#comment-21 this blog makes me think of my resolutions [i def. did come with the fresh new weave]. i think new years are great because it's very symbolic of a fresh start, but i think the problem with new years resolutions is that people don't realize that they have to mentally commit to change whatever facet of their life needs tweaking - they assume that because it's a "new year" things will come easy and opportunities will fly their way that will allow them to change their erroneous ways. when i think of having control over self, the maslow's hierarchy of needs comes into mind and i remember learning that barely anyone becomes "self-actualized" and i think it's true, especially with this society... we live in a world in which we are told we are inferior and that we have to become harder, better, faster, stronger before someone comes and takes our time to shine. nowadays, i think even the most secure people struggle with self-worth... and relationships... ugh... no need for a diatribe on my part haha this blog makes me think of my resolutions [i def. did come with the fresh new weave]. i think new years are great because it’s very symbolic of a fresh start, but i think the problem with new years resolutions is that people don’t realize that they have to mentally commit to change whatever facet of their life needs tweaking – they assume that because it’s a “new year” things will come easy and opportunities will fly their way that will allow them to change their erroneous ways.

when i think of having control over self, the maslow’s hierarchy of needs comes into mind and i remember learning that barely anyone becomes “self-actualized” and i think it’s true, especially with this society… we live in a world in which we are told we are inferior and that we have to become harder, better, faster, stronger before someone comes and takes our time to shine. nowadays, i think even the most secure people struggle with self-worth…

and relationships… ugh… no need for a diatribe on my part haha

]]> By: FAITHCARR http://blog.wildirisbooks.com/guest-authors/urban-elegance/it-sometimes-rains-in-january/comment-page-1/#comment-20 FAITHCARR Thu, 08 Jan 2009 05:10:16 +0000 http://wildirisbooks.com/blog/?p=201#comment-20 Every year my resolution is different. I give up the same sort of things at Lenten time (although I'm an Athiest). One year it was worry. Took me until Lent to get that one down. Worry is an addiction, and a circular destruction of the spirit. This year, I've going to give up expectation. I expect my children to want to help on the farmlette. I expect my Hubby to do the things I need done. I expect my gravy will always be without lumps. I expect my new President to give a s**t about the true needs of the people of our nation. I'm giving up donations to organizations who ask for money more than once a month. I'm giving up anxiety, fear, and well, expectation itself. I think maybe these will take until Lent, but these very things are the most damaging, most dangerous to my self and those I love. Oh, and I'm giving up on getting a cow. Going to have to be satisfied with pygmy milk goats. Faith Carr, Gainesville Every year my resolution is different. I give up the same sort of things at Lenten time (although I’m an Athiest). One year it was worry. Took me until Lent to get that one down. Worry is an addiction, and a circular destruction of the spirit.

This year, I’ve going to give up expectation. I expect my children to want to help on the farmlette. I expect my Hubby to do the things I need done. I expect my gravy will always be without lumps. I expect my new President to give a s**t about the true needs of the people of our nation.

I’m giving up donations to organizations who ask for money more than once a month. I’m giving up anxiety, fear, and well, expectation itself.

I think maybe these will take until Lent, but these very things are the most damaging, most dangerous to my self and those I love.

Oh, and I’m giving up on getting a cow. Going to have to be satisfied with pygmy milk goats.

Faith Carr, Gainesville

]]> By: LikiaLina http://blog.wildirisbooks.com/guest-authors/urban-elegance/it-sometimes-rains-in-january/comment-page-1/#comment-19 LikiaLina Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:03:06 +0000 http://wildirisbooks.com/blog/?p=201#comment-19 Wow, You definitely hit on all the aspects that I have ever dwelled over when it has come to making a New Year's resolution. Not all in the same year of course, but plenty of them more often than others and they are more familiar then i would like to admit. When it comes to love my goal or resolution (as I haven't deemed until now), is to raise the bar for potential suitors. Yet, at the same time, in the back of my head I wonder if this is what I should do seeming that my only suitors recently have been whack! Therefore wondering that if I raise my expectations as I know I need to, will this leave me with no suitors at all? And then more importantly, why should I care?! I don't want to settle, and if that was what I was going to do, why didn't I just settle with the last guy who actually spoke about marriage?! Anyways, we always seem to be left in a conundrum when it comes to love and likewise with New Year's resolutions. It sucks but like you said, come Feb or March they will either be forgotten or we're just moving too quickly to even realize that they may still play a part in our lives. Anyways, I just wanted to say nice job on covering so many aspects and hopefully this will help others in some way, shape or form. :) Wow, You definitely hit on all the aspects that I have ever dwelled over when it has come to making a New Year’s resolution. Not all in the same year of course, but plenty of them more often than others and they are more familiar then i would like to admit. When it comes to love my goal or resolution (as I haven’t deemed until now), is to raise the bar for potential suitors. Yet, at the same time, in the back of my head I wonder if this is what I should do seeming that my only suitors recently have been whack! Therefore wondering that if I raise my expectations as I know I need to, will this leave me with no suitors at all? And then more importantly, why should I care?! I don’t want to settle, and if that was what I was going to do, why didn’t I just settle with the last guy who actually spoke about marriage?! Anyways, we always seem to be left in a conundrum when it comes to love and likewise with New Year’s resolutions. It sucks but like you said, come Feb or March they will either be forgotten or we’re just moving too quickly to even realize that they may still play a part in our lives.

Anyways, I just wanted to say nice job on covering so many aspects and hopefully this will help others in some way, shape or form. :)

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